JEN SEVERN'S BLOG

      I have found this tool from my step study SUPER helpful! I run myself through this when I have a big reaction. It's proving to be SUPER helpful and healing. 1. I am resentful at: 2. What was the cause: (3 C's) Why Am I Angry or resentful? (i.e. did I cause it, how have I tried to control it, is it in my power to cure it? Did my action contribute to the problem 3. What part of me was hurt or threatened: Self esteem Pride Emotional security Financial Emotional/material ambitions Personal Relations Sex Relations 4. What was my part: Dishonest Selfish Manipulating/martyr/managing/mothering Frightened Inconsiderate Not to Blame/inconsiderate 5. The Specific nature of our Wrongs: Be Specific. Example - Lying about addiction, cheating on spouse 6. Where do I see God working?   There are notes on using this tool, like if abuse is involved, this tool doesn't work, don't use it for that situation. Remember I'm not a therapist or a counselor or a professional… always go ...

Scott called me today and asked what I was doing and I said, “Oh just having a personal revival.” He laughed and said, “That's good cutie!” My mind is turning over some DEEP things. Join me if you like. Eventually I'll be able to sum it up, but for now, this is me swimming in ocean.   This year started with me having a real clear call to work on the way people pleasing looks in my life with this uncomfortable word “codependence”. I want to uncover what codependence looks like in my life: people pleasing, avoiding, perfectionistic tendencies…   I am doing a step study. I feel like I hang at “The Breakfast Club”. It's one of the best things I've done for my personal growth and healing and I'm just scratching the surface.     Overcoming perfectionism finding a path to joy.    I'm not sure what happened… was I trying so hard to be sure everyone is safe and loved especially my kids. Ultimately I wanted to make sure I was safe and loved. Curt Thompson (one of my ...